Grey or Gray: What’s the Difference?

How exactly is the color (colour?) between white and black supposed to be spelled? It is grey or gray? Do they mean the same thing? And which is correct? These are probably some of the most frequently asked questions my readers write in to ask me, so today I’m going to address this problem head on.

In this post, we will finally solve the grey vs. gray debate, so that you will never have to second-guess yourself while writing these words again.

What’s the Difference Between Grey and Gray?

is it grey or grayGrey and Gray both can function as adjectives, nouns, and verbs, with all uses centering on the color intermediate between black and white. For example,

  • He is wearing a grey sweatshirt. (Adjective)
  • You need to add more gray into the mixture. (Noun)
  • My hair quickly grayed after my thirties. (Verb)

So you’re probably still asking yourself, “Okay, when do I know when to use gray or grey?”

The answer is that the difference between them is entirely dialectal. There is no demonstrable difference of sense or function between them, meaning both words can be used interchangeably.

That’s right; using grey or gray is acceptable.

When to Use Grey

Even though the only thing separating grey and gray is a dialectical difference, it is still important to keep the audience in mind while you are using these words.

Grey (with an “E”) is the preferred choice in British English. If you find yourself writing to a British audience in an English newspaper or magazine, grey is the word choice you will want to use.

When to Use Gray

Gray (with an “A”) is the preferred choice in American English. Similarly, if you find yourself writing to an American audience, you will want to use gray. In fact, the AP Stylebook requires the use of gray, not grey.

Exceptions to the Rule

is the color grey or grayWhile it is generally acceptable to use these words interchangeably, there are few instances where you cannot and one form is absolutely required over the other.

The first is with proper names. This one should be self-explanatory. If someone’s last name is “Grey,” you cannot spell it “Gray” and have that be acceptable.

The second is the name of the dog breed “Greyhound.” This name cannot be changed, and, interestingly enough, actually has nothing to do with the color of the dog.

The same thing goes for the busing company “Greyhound Lines.” This cannot be changed.

The third and final exception is with the scientific measurement called “the gray.” This measures absorption of one joule of radiation energy by one kilogram of matter. This cannot be changed.

History of Gray/Grey

The modern day spelling of gray (grey) actually comes from the Old English grǣg. Throughout the centuries there have been many variations in spellings, ei and ey and ai and ay.

There have also been attempts to distinguish grey and gray into different colors or hues, with the color gray being a simply black and white mixture but the color grey being slightly bluer. Perhaps this is why national surveys in both England and the United States show that many people believe these are actually two different hues, even though they aren’t.

Despite the complicated history, all you need to know is that they are used for different audiences.

Remember the Difference

A great trick to remember when to use which of these two words is that Gray is used in America and Greis used in England.


So, how do you spell grey? Well, even though people get confused on the gray vs. grey debate, they can actually be used interchangeably. It is still important, however, to keep your audience in mind.

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Wardrobe Rehab

5 Steps to Perfecting Your Closet

The goal is a wardrobe that’s easy to navigate, full of pieces that you absolutely love and are able to create infinite outfit with.

Below you can find the 5 steps, expanded with  videos, tips, tricks and printables for how you can not only organise and edit your existing wardrobe, but how you can also develop your personal style, choose a palette and focus your shopping. All so you can look and feel your best. 🙂


Step 1. Wardrobe Cull

Step 2. Define Your Style

Step 3. Choose Your Essentials

Step 4. Select Your Colour Palette

Step 5. Maintain & Focus Your Shopping

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I seem to have a Brain-fry today, especially after the super lazy sunday. A sunday that I have spent mostly in bed. I define Brain-Fry here as a state of being where my brain doesn’t want me to feel or do things that calls for any thinking even if it means doing something that I love.

Stephen Fry  says “If ignorance is bliss, why aren’t there more happy people in the world?”

Ignorance is a state of being unaware. Bliss is a state of complete happiness.

If being unaware of a situation gives one complete happiness, I choose to be ignorant and Happy.

The argument you overhear between your parents: you love them both and don’t want to take sides or support one over the other. You hear that your best friend has a crush over you and you cannot think of him in any other way but your best buddy. You are at a restaurant that your friend recommended and you see that they order your order from the local Deli as they are out of power to make it fresh for you.

There are a lot of things best unknown. Three situations where I would I chosen to have not known and enjoyed the bliss. well…. Life has no undo button.


Harmony is defined as compatibility in opinion and action.

I wouldn’t be who I am today without you  in my life.  And despite the fact that I know this, I often take you, my best friend and my lifeline for granted.

I forget to thank you, for almost everything.  So here’s my attempt at setting the record straight:

“Thank you for making so many ordinary moments, extraordinary.”

“Thank you for always giving me the extra push I need.”

“Thank you for telling me the truth.”

“Thank you for talking things out with me.”

“Thank you for meeting me halfway.”

“Thank you for not getting in the way of the other important parts of my life.”

“Thank you for being compassionate.”

“Thank you for thinking of me as often as you do.”

“Thank you for the compliments.”

“Thank you for making time for me.”

“Thank you for your full presence.”

“Thank you for knowing when something is wrong with me.”

“Thank you for making the extra effort to understand me.”

“Thank you for not acting, judging, or treating me like you know me better than I know myself.”

“Thank you for being willing to be wrong.”

“Thank you for supporting my decisions.”

“Thank you for being loyal, even when we are apart.”

“Thank you for being there through good times and bad.”

“Thank you for knowing that I can’t always be strong.”

“Thank you for facing problems with me.”

“Thank you for going out of your way for me, even when it’s not convenient.”

“Thank you for actually wanting to be there for me.”

“Thank you for walking the talk.”

“Thank you for believing in me.”

“Thank you for encouraging me when I stumble.”

“Thank you for using caring words.”

“Thank you for accepting me just the way I am.”

“Thank you for making me feel comfortable in my skin.”

“Thank you for simply enjoying my company.”

“Thank you for valuing my time.”

“Thank you for showing me that you are grateful to have me in your life.”

“Thank you for supporting me in making myself a priority.”

“Thank you for sincerely loving me.”

“Thank you for helping me love myself more too.”

“Thank you for all the little things you do that make a big difference.”

“Thank you for being patient and forgiving when I step on your toes.”

“Thank you for not holding my unchangeable past against me.”

“Thank you for not expecting our relationship to always be easy.”

“Thank you for giving me the solitude and space I need.”

“And most of all, thank you for being YOU.”

“Thank you for the Harmony we share”


gift is an item given to someone without the expectation of payment or reciprocity.

What is the best gift that you can give anyone ?

The best gift you can give anyone is your time. It is a gesture of respect that you are thinking of and giving the person priority over everything else. Spending quality time with anyone no matter how much it is, 1 minute or 120 minutes, it does not mater. That 1 minute or 120 minutes is enough to create a memory which with last a life time.

There is this Dad who is on his way to work. Stopped at a set of red lights, he calls his office and tells them that he is taking the day off and cancels all his meetings and appointments for the day. Why did he cancel an important meeting, why did he call off everything for the day and move his appointments. Sitting in traffic at the set of lights, the dad had to weigh between work and appointments and the memory his little princess will carry with her for the rest of her life.

He did this for his little girl. It was the last day of the school term and it was the day the parents had to meet the teacher at school. Dad’s little princess jumped with joy when he went back home and surprised her. That day, this dad decided to give the gift of time to and create a memory with his little girl.

This Dad is a workaholic, works 6 days a week and does not bat an eyelid to work on a sunday if he has to. He loves what he does and is man who can fix anything. He values friendships and relationships and respects everyone’s  time. He is a man who believes in spending quality time with people who matter the most in his life. He is a great believer in gifting memories, memories of quality time spent together. A working lunch, a cup of tea on the couch, a walk in the morning to start the day with or a candle light dinner with a loved one, he switches off from everything and everyone else when he is with you and gives you undivided attention. I have received many many gifts from him, many many memories that both of us will carry and cherish for the rest of our lives.

Just like a hug and a kiss which you cannot receive unless you give, the gift of time is something that you cannot receive unless you decide to give up everything else to be with the one who you want to receive the gift of time from.



I May Not Always Be There With You, but I’ll Always Be There for You – Unknown

Meaningful and valuable friendships can be hard to come by, but there is one key ingredient to a real friendship that we must always remember, and that’s genuine respect for one another.

We all get busy in our lives but the measure of a true friendship is when you don’t take it personally when a friend hasn’t been in touch for a while. You know they are just busy in their life and that they are almost indirectly waiting for you to reach out in order to reconnect. In solid friendships, sometimes there is the one person who is just better at extending that arm in order to get back in touch. It doesn’t mean the other person cares any less, they almost need you to be that person for them. True friendships are those where you look out for and care for each other, where you understand and accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses and don’t view it as a negative or a hindrance to the friendship, but rather a stimulant to it.

It’s when you have those ‘friends’ that make you feel guilty for being out of touch without taking a moment to think about the fact that you also have your priorities in life just like they do and all the time they are taking wondering about why you aren’t reaching out, they could have just picked up the phone to call or text you to see how things are going. For all they know, you could be going through a rough time in your life. Everyone is dealing with their own personal battles at any given time and it’s completely unfair to make assumptions without knowing the facts.

True friendships are those where it is mutually understood that, hey, we are friends, but we also have our own lives, so if we can’t talk often or see each other often, it doesn’t mean we don’t care about each other or aren’t thinking of each other – and most importantly, it does not mean we aren’t still friends.

This post by makes me feel guilty for not reaching out to the friends and friendships I think about everyday. 

Friendship  is a stronger form of interpersonal bond.

There are many forms of friendship. Some vary from place to place, some have certain characteristics present and some other have no limits. But the thing that is common amongst all types of friendships is the enjoyment of each other’s company, trust,  the ability to be oneself, to express one’s feelings, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the other.

Some friendships are from primary school, some from high school, some from college, some from graduation, some from work, some from community, some from neighbourhood, some from other friendships but all these are for life.There is no practical limit on what types of people can form a friendship. I have a friend who is much older than me and I look up to her. She is a grandmother and a very graceful one too. I have another friend who is a new Mother-in-law and is loving her new role and title. 

My friend from primary school called me today after about 3 months and it felt like we just picked up from where we left and caught up in 20 mins. She made my day. That phone call from her, a text msg from another friend who wants to walk with me tomorrow morning, a forward from another friend, who was reminded of me when she saw a video on FB: these are the small gestures and reaching out by friends and friendships that makes one’s day meaningful.

Its 11.17pm now, and I know a lot of such friends  who will gladly answer my phone even at this hour of the day  if I call  just to say “hi”. I hope to make one friend’s day today just as another one made mine today.

A big shout-out of thanks to all these wonderful friends and friendships that I value and cherish.