I May Not Always Be There With You, but I’ll Always Be There for You – Unknown
Meaningful and valuable friendships can be hard to come by, but there is one key ingredient to a real friendship that we must always remember, and that’s genuine respect for one another.
We all get busy in our lives but the measure of a true friendship is when you don’t take it personally when a friend hasn’t been in touch for a while. You know they are just busy in their life and that they are almost indirectly waiting for you to reach out in order to reconnect. In solid friendships, sometimes there is the one person who is just better at extending that arm in order to get back in touch. It doesn’t mean the other person cares any less, they almost need you to be that person for them. True friendships are those where you look out for and care for each other, where you understand and accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses and don’t view it as a negative or a hindrance to the friendship, but rather a stimulant to it.
It’s when you have those ‘friends’ that make you feel guilty for being out of touch without taking a moment to think about the fact that you also have your priorities in life just like they do and all the time they are taking wondering about why you aren’t reaching out, they could have just picked up the phone to call or text you to see how things are going. For all they know, you could be going through a rough time in your life. Everyone is dealing with their own personal battles at any given time and it’s completely unfair to make assumptions without knowing the facts.
True friendships are those where it is mutually understood that, hey, we are friends, but we also have our own lives, so if we can’t talk often or see each other often, it doesn’t mean we don’t care about each other or aren’t thinking of each other – and most importantly, it does not mean we aren’t still friends.
This post bymakes me feel guilty for not reaching out to the friends and friendships I think about everyday.
Friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal bond.
There are many forms of friendship. Some vary from place to place, some have certain characteristics present and some other have no limits. But the thing that is common amongst all types of friendships is the enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, the ability to be oneself, to express one’s feelings, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the other.
Some friendships are from primary school, some from high school, some from college, some from graduation, some from work, some from community, some from neighbourhood, some from other friendships but all these are for life.There is no practical limit on what types of people can form a friendship. I have a friend who is much older than me and I look up to her. She is a grandmother and a very graceful one too. I have another friend who is a new Mother-in-law and is loving her new role and title.
My friend from primary school called me today after about 3 months and it felt like we just picked up from where we left and caught up in 20 mins. She made my day. That phone call from her, a text msg from another friend who wants to walk with me tomorrow morning, a forward from another friend, who was reminded of me when she saw a video on FB: these are the small gestures and reaching out by friends and friendships that makes one’s day meaningful.
Its 11.17pm now, and I know a lot of such friends who will gladly answer my phone even at this hour of the day if I call just to say “hi”. I hope to make one friend’s day today just as another one made mine today.
A big shout-out of thanks to all these wonderful friends and friendships that I value and cherish.